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How to Write a Sympathy Card

How to show you care when someone you know loses a loved one...

Sending a sympathy card is a nice gesture to let your friend or relative know that you are thinking of them during such a difficult time. But, how do you find the right words to convey your thoughts? It can be hard to write down how you feel when you know nothing you say or do will help heal their grief. The important thing to remember is your empathy, and by sending them your support and a sympathy card from the heart.

Below you’ll find some tips on what to say and what not to say in your sympathy message.


When starting a sympathy message, it can be common to not know what to say. Generally speaking, it is a good idea to keep your note on the shorter side. However, it doesn't mean that you don't take the time to carefully craft a loving message. Even a short note can be impactful. Also, you can have a longer conversation over the phone or in person later.

What Not To Say...

The hard part about writing a condolence message is worrying about writing something careless or even hurtful. Grief is profound and everyone experiences it differently, so it is important to be delicate. The words you choose to write in your card are important.

For your note, try not to compare yourself to their situation. Avoid offering advice; rather provide love and support through your words. Never say that things happen for a reason, that the deceased person is in a better place, or that it's better this way. Even if the person experienced pain and suffering before they passed, it is not a kind way to express sympathy. 

Below are some of our recommended blank notecards for writing thoughtful messages:

Mapplethorpe Flowers QuickNotes


Vincent Van Gogh Notecard Set

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